In
this section I’d like to discuss a number of gender/sex topics that draw upon
the five aspects that I have presented in parts 1 and 2. I will refer to these five aspects using (1)-(5).
Male-Female Binary
There
are a number of individuals who believe in a male-female binary. In this
argument, there are only two versions of “sexual normative” individuals. Using
the prior five aspects, a sexual normative male is one who is genetically male
(1), biologically male (2), and identifies as a male (5). This individual is
also heterosexual (4) and expresses himself as a male (3) – at least as much as
possible within the cultural in which he lives. A sexually normative female is
genetically female (1), biologically female (2), and identifies as a female (5)
and is also heterosexual (4) and expresses herself as a female (3) – again as
much as possible within the culture in which she lives. Anything other than
these two types of individuals is considered to be a perversion [note that
negative connotations are generally used] and is someone who needs to be “changed”
to fit the binary model.
Cisgender-Transgender
binary
A
more recent binary argument is the use of the term cisgender. This term only
dates back about 20 years and is used to define anyone who is not transgendered.
A mild definition is that it refers to someone “whose experiences of their own
gender (5) agree with the sex they were assigned at birth (2). But it has also
been defined as those who “have a gender identity (5) or perform a gender role
(3) society considers appropriate for one’s sex (2)” (see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender).
However, the Urban Dictionary defines it as “A derogatory term used by members
of the trans community to refer to all the disgusting people in this world who
don’t hate their genitalia” (see http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cisgender).
GLBT/LGBT and Other
Variations
The
use of the term GLBT (gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, trans-sexual) (or LGBT for those
who want the female term to take precedence) also dates back about 20 years.
The terms in use before then were primarily gay (which tended to only recognize
the male-male relationships) or homosexual (which did not include other forms
of sexual orientation). However, since then the number of combinations that
have been added to this “alphabet soup” of an acronym has expanded greatly (see
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT).
The
most common acronym that I have seen recently is GLBTQIA (gay, lesbian,
bi-sexual, trans-sexual, questioning, intersex, ally). But I have seen
everything up to LGBTTQQFAGBDSM which I won’t even attempt to decode here.
However, some of the added letters are not so much an attempt to include other
variations as they are to increase the number of people who are associated with
organizations which use these terms and to thus increase their political clout.
In
particular, the “Q” for questioning is to encourage young people to feel
included, primarily older adolescents who are still experiencing the impact of
hormones on their not-yet-quite-mature bodies, to join in the movement and to
possibly sway them into sexual orientations that they would not have otherwise.
Also, the “A” for ally is to encourage others, primarily college students who
are also subject to the liberal biases of their professors to associate with the
movement even if their own sexual orientation is not part of the GLBT portion.
However,
there are even some who are part of the above definition who are not supportive
of the continual adding of letters and who believe that doing so distracts from
their own position. In particular, those who are trans-gendered and those who
are intersex may not want to just get lumped in with the predominant sexual
orientation of the GLBT group as they have very different issues that they want
to have discussed.
How Many Genders are
There?
At
the opposite end of the male/female binary argument are those who propose a
laundry list of various combinations. Recently the UK has asked school children
to check off one of a list of 23 possibilities on what gender they identify
with (see http://dailycaller.com/2016/02/01/uk-government-survey-asks-kids-to-choose-one-of-23-genders/).
The first two are the familiar “Male” and “Female”, but then there are such
choices as “Agender,” “Demi-boy” and “Tri-gender.” And even with all of those
choices, there is still an “Other” box. I’m not sure how a young person is even
supposed to understand the differences between the various options. And if that
list is not long enough for you, Facebook at one time gave users 58 possible
choices (see http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2014/02/heres-a-list-of-58-gender-options-for-facebook-users/),
many of which I don’t understand – such as what is the difference between
“Trans Male,” “Trans* Male,” “Trans Man,” “Trans* Man,” “Transgender Male,”
“Transgender Man,” “Transsexual Male,” and “Transsexual Man”? And this list
does not cover the possible variations in the sexual orientation aspect!
More
recently, Facebook decided that even this was not enough and you can build your
own “custom” gender in a freeform field (see https://www.rt.com/usa/236283-facebook-gender-custom-choice/).
Fear of the Unknown and
False Attribution
There
is a natural human tendency to be afraid or at least wary of the unknown. Thus,
when presented with a new situation we want to back away at least initially. We
are also much more likely to believe the “stories” that we hear, however
sensational, when we have no experience to guide us. This is true in the
gender/sex area as well. Our discomfort with either discussing or encountering
new areas heightens our awareness so that we can get quite emotional in our
responses. Let me give a few examples.
Back
when I was growing up, it was pretty much a male/female binary world. The
Internet did not yet exist so we were not aware of anything except what we
could read in our local newspaper. And while we read about homosexuality in the
Bible, we had no recent experience with it as most homosexuals were still “in
the closet.” So our only concern in being “safe” was to ensure that individuals
who had a penis did not have opportunity to be in close connection with
individuals who had a vagina – apart from the marriage relationship. So we had
Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts which were sex segregated and any gatherings that
included both boys and girls, such as a school dance, were heavily chaperoned.
Then
homosexuals came “out of the closet” and we developed a whole new set of fears.
We immediately assumed the worst – that anyone who was homosexual was also a
sexual predator. We reacted by isolating such individuals – they weren’t safe
around boys and they still weren’t safe around girls. We also began assuming
that any boy who was effeminate (3) was also at least a latent homosexual (4)
and in the process may have driven those individuals in that direction.
The
same thing is happening now in the trans-gender area (5). In the absence of
good information we are afraid and with the Internet we feed on those fears
with every new story. And we falsely attribute such individuals with characteristics
that may not be true.
But
let’s be honest – the world is not filled with people who spend every waking
moment thinking about how to fulfill their sexual desires. And to attribute
that to anyone in situations that you may not understand is unfair to all
parties involved.
About
15 years ago I had a significant experience with a kidney stone. Part of the
initial treatment was the insertion of a stent between the affected kidney and
my bladder so that the stone could not block the opening of the ureter. This
was a surgical procedure where the stent was inserted through my penis, up the
urethra, through the bladder and up the ureter. It was done under anesthesia –
and frankly I was in so much pain that I didn’t even notice who was in the OR
with me.
A
few weeks later, after the medication I was prescribed had an opportunity to
dissolve the stone, I had an outpatient procedure to remove the stent. As I
walked into the outpatient operating room I found that the OR nurse, the only
individual in the room at the time, happened to be someone who I knew. She
would be assisting the urologist in the procedure. I will admit to being
initially a bit wary – knowing that a female who I knew was going to be assisting
in a procedure that involved my “privates”. But then I knew that I had to set
those fears aside – she was just going to be doing her job, the one she was
trained for. And I was going to be under sedation when it happened, so I
shouldn’t worry about it.
About
five years later, I was having my annual review with my urologist. Normally it
was just he who came into the examining room as I “dropped my drawers” for the
examination. But this year he had a medical student who was in training to
become a urologist who was following him throughout his daily procedures – and
the student happened to be female. To be fair, he did ask if I was ok with
having her observing since it was part of her training. I am not in the habit
of exposing myself to 20-something females (and this time not under sedation) –
but once again I had to quickly decide that she would just be doing the job
that she was training for and there was nothing sexual involved, so I
consented.
Fear
of the unknown is not unusual. But we need to be careful to not overreact to
either misinformation or partial information. And we should not falsely
attribute characteristics to others just because we are not experienced or
informed.
Cultural Issues
There
are cultural aspects to a number of the issues in the gender/sex area. I’m
writing this to a primarily US American audience. But there are other
countries, or even cultural groups in the US that have “norms” that are different
than those that most of us in the country have. So we need to be careful that
we don’t present our own experience as being the “right” one. Just a few
examples:
Individuals
in Australia may have passports with a gender of M, F, or X – the X being “indeterminate/intersex/unspecified”.
These individuals can enter/leave the US, but US citizens do not have this
flexibility (https://www.passports.gov.au/passportsexplained/theapplicationprocess/eligibilityoverview/Pages/changeofsexdoborpob.aspx)
German
saunas are not gender-restricted and may only be used if one is totally nude.
While one can certainly opt out of using this type of facility, some German
families may have a sauna in the home where the entire family participates
together. This can present some interesting culture shock if the family is
hosting an exchange student. But others may also have issues (see http://monkeysandmountains.com/german-sauna
for one amusing account).
Continue to part 4 - https://ramblinrussells.blogspot.com/2016/05/gender-and-sex-part-4-how-do-i-feel.html
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