Many
people are confused about how to name the relationship between two individuals.
We hear terms like 3rd cousin, twice removed – but what does that
mean and how do we determine it. I wrote an earlier version of this with
examples from my own family tree (http://ramblinrussells.blogspot.com/2015/05/genealogy-story-counting-gs.html),
but I’d like to make it even simpler. Note that in the below the sentences in italics are an example and are not part
of the simple steps. The four steps in bold
are all that you need in most cases.
Step 1 – find the common
ancestor
This
is just what it sounds like. Find the individual in the family tree who is the common
ancestor to the two people involved.
As an example, let’s call the two
people Bob and Sally and their common ancestor’s name is Alexander.
Step 2 – count the Gs in
each relationship to the common ancestor
For
each person, determine the relationship between them and the common ancestor. Count
the number of “G”s in each of these relationships.
Again, for example, let’s say that
Alexander is Bob’s great-great-grandfather (or great*2 grandfather for short),
and that Alexander is Sally’s great-great-great-great-grandfather (or great*4
grandfather for short). Thus,
our two numbers are 3 and 5 respectively, one for each “great” and one for the “grand”.
Step 3 – determine the
difference, this is the “removed” part
In our example, the difference
between 3 and 5 is 2, so that means that we will have a “twice removed” in our
answer.
Step 4 – what’s the
smaller number, this is our degree of cousin-ness
In our example, 3 is the smaller
number. So, in our
example, Bob and Sally are 3rd cousins, twice removed.
In
most cases, that’s it, you’re done. However, if one/both of the relationship
numbers from step 2 was zero, then we have more work to do.
Special Cases – what to
do if either/both of the numbers is zero
One
of the beauties in English is that the word “cousin” is both gender-neutral and
reflexive, i.e. if you are my cousin, then I am also your cousin. But when we
have a zero in the above steps, the term “zero-eth cousin” is not a meaningful
term. So we’ll need to introduce other words to describe the relationship.
Case A – BOTH relationship
numbers are zero
Let’s
first consider the case where both of the relationships to the common ancestor
result in a zero. For example, Alexander
is the father of Bob and the father of Sally. One could say that Bob is Sally’s
brother and Sally is Bob’s sister. But the words brother/sister are neither
gender-neutral nor reflexive.
Fortunately,
we do have an appropriate gender-neutral, reflexive term to use in this case. The
word is “sibling”. So, Bob and Sally would
be siblings in this case. (Also note that I’m not going to discuss here
things like half-siblings, or step-siblings.)
Case B – One of the
numbers is zero, the other is one
Let’s say that Alexander is Bob’s
father, but Alexander is Sally’s grandfather. So our
relationship numbers are zero and 1. We could be tempted to say that they are
siblings once removed. That would be technically correct, but it’s not
typically how we would describe this relationship between them. Rather, we would say that Bob is Sally’s
uncle and Sally is Bob’s niece. But the problem is that the words
uncle/aunt and niece/nephew are neither gender-neutral nor reflexive. And there
is no word that I am aware of in the English language that can be used in place
of these words. So we’re left with these messy words to use. But since most
people are used to using them, that’s fine.
Case C – One of the numbers
is zero, the other is larger than one
Here
we need to add back in the great/grand “G-words” that we used back in step 2. But
since we’ve already accounted for one of the “G”s in the terms
uncle/aunt/niece/nephew, we add back in one less G-word than the larger of the
two numbers.
Thus, if Alexander is Bob’s great-great-grandfather
and Alexander is Sally’s father (e.g. their relationship numbers are 3 and zero
respectively), this makes Sally Bob’s great aunt and Bob Sally’s great nephew.
If the difference is even larger, say 6 and zero, then use great*5 aunt/uncle
and great*5 nephew/niece.
(I’m
not going to get involved in whether the proper term is “great nephew” or “grandnephew”,
if you want to see more, look at this reference – https://www.legalgenealogist.com/2015/02/25/great-versus-grand/).
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